29 Lessons to Learn by Your 29th Birthday

I turned 29 this past week and let me just say...I def made the most of my 20’s.

I was smart, I was dumb, I was careful, I was reckless, I loved, I lost, I excelled, I failed, I laughed, I cried, I faced anxiety, experienced joy, battled depression, enjoyed peace, felt the feeling of not being where I thought I should, the feeling of being ahead of the game, took a break from school, received my degree, lived abroad, got married, got divorced, launched a business, launched another business, traveled, wrote a book, wrote 7 more, made friends, lost friends, met new family members, disowned family members, made money, went broke, wore a weave, returned to my natural hair, moved across country alone, reunited with my soulmate, created some amazing things, tore some stuff up... time really does fly when you are having fun.

Above all I’m grateful for my evolution and being in the best place I’ve ever been right now. In this post, I am going to share 29 lessons to learn by your 29th birthday.

  1. Know what your purpose and passions are.

  2. Time is not going to slow down. Make the most of each day.

  3. Each day that you wake up is a new opportunity to get things right. As long as you are alive, it is never too late to change your life.

  4. Being in your twenties is YOUNG, even when you are in your late twenties, you are still YOUNG.

  5. The only timeline that matters is the one you set for yourself. Do not allow anyone to force you to speed up or slow down for their own comfort.

  6. Social Media is not reality, but it can have real life consequences.

  7. An opinion and personal experience are two different things. An opinion does not negate experience.

  8. Words are powerful. You shape your reality with what you speak, and if you are not mindful of your words they could come back to bite you in the ass.

  9. It is perfectly ok to cut people off who are not encouraging your growth. Do not feel guilty for making this decision for yourself.

  10. You are not your past.

  11. There is nothing wrong with speaking to a therapist. Make getting a mental checkup a part of your routine.

  12. Asking for help is not a bad thing.

  13. Crying is not a sign of weakness. Let out ill feelings so that they no longer weigh you down.

  14. Blood does not make you family. You are not obligated to be in connection with someone because of a blood relation.

  15. Trust yourself. You know what you see and feel.

  16. You owe it to yourself to give your life everything you’ve got.

  17. The opinions of others means nothing. Don’t attach yourself to what others think of you.

  18. Taking a day off is good to recharge yourself. You will not fall behind if you take a day off.

  19. The people who are meant to be in your life will be in your life. There is nothing extra you need to do.

  20. Dating down was “cute”...but it no longer fits you.

  21. The people who have hurt you don’t owe you a thing. It is up to you to heal you. The person who made you sick is not carrying the antidote (trust me).

  22. Define for yourself what it is that you want out of life. If you do not, someone else will define this for you.

  23. Arguing to prove a point is a waste of time. People cannot comprehend past their perspectives and experiences.

  24. Learn when it is the appropriate time to use your voice. When I say “appropriate time” - I am referring to the time that will yield the greatest return.

  25. YOUR CREDIT MATTERS. Repair your credit, focus on your credit, maintain your credit.

  26. Do not make a major purchase until you can afford to buy it twice.

  27. Do not try to keep up with the Jones’. The both of you will end up bankrupt. Act your wage and be proud of the money you work hard to make.

  28. A breakup is not the end of the world. You will live and not die.

  29. You deserve to be happy. Do the things that make you happy regardless of who doesn’t like it.