Sometimes I wish I was different...wish I was calmer, wish I didn't wear my emotions on my sleeve, wish I was nicer, wish I fit in...then it hits me I'm super amazing and if I was built any other way I couldn't be me & I couldn't do what I do!
In this post, I will be sharing some key points in one of my all-time favorite success stories and books; #GirlBoss written by Sophia Amoruso who is the Founder and Executive Chairman of Nasty Gal.
1. Educate Yourself
"A #GirlBoss is someone who's in charge of her own life. She gets what she wants because she works for it."
Never get to a place where you are comfortable and think that you know everything. Take time to prepare yourself by reading. Reading helps you to stay relevant and ahead in your field. If you want to know more about a specific area take a course, attend a conference, and follow the blogs and publications that are offering the information you need. There are always free webinars, eBooks, worksheets, and information being given out, so being low on funds is never an excuse for not educating yourself.
You can try to fake it until you make it, but that will only carry you so far and for so long because ignorance will always expose itself.
2. Say NO
You do not have to say yes to an opportunity just because it is presented to you! Starting out I made this horrible mistake because I was so eager to stay working. As a #GirlBoss you have to understand that you are exclusive; your talents, your knowledge, your skills, your drive, your ambition- is not meant to be exposed to just anybody!
When presented with an opportunity you don't have to give your answer right away take some time (even if its just an hour) to weigh the pros and the cons and even get a second opinion from a trusted source. Get as many details as possible and make sure everything is very specific. For example: if you are getting paid get an exact dollar amount, or if you are a sponsor find out exactly which marketing materials your brand will appear in etc. And if you decide to say yes, have the details explained in a written and signed agreement from all parties involved
3. Silence is Golden
As women, we already have this horrible label of being gossipers, catty, etc. There is no place for gossip or cattiness in the life of a #GirlBoss. These traits may seem small and unimportant at face value, but gossip can snowball into a huge issue. Not to mention it is extremely time consuming! Cut gossip off at the source; tell the source you don't want to hear it, you don't think it is appropriate, or you can say, "It has been nice chatting with you, but I really have a lot of work to do." Do what you have to do to excuse yourself from that conversation.
Also everything does not require a response. You will receive a lot of negative comments, slander, and opinions on your road to success. And living in the age of social media makes it that much worse! What you focus on is what you give life to. There is a time and place for everything and one of the hardest responsibilities as a #GirlBoss is choosing your battles wisely.
"A #GirlBoss knows when to throw punches and when to roll with them."
4. Brace Yourself for Failure
"There are secret opportunities hidden in every failure."
As a #GirlBoss you are in the business of taking risks, trying new things, and learning...hear me good when I say FAILURES WILL HAPPEN. The trick to dealing with a failure is paying close attention to why you failed. If you know the why, you can make plans and create systems to avoid that particular failure happening again. You can take 5 minutes to mope and feel discourage, but if success is what you have planned as your big picture result, then after those 5 minutes are up you have to get back to work!
A true #GirlBoss takes responsibility for her actions. You have to know that you will not always right and how to fix things once you've made a mistake. Most people shy away from apologizing because they view it as having to admit they were wrong, but apologies are necessary if you plan to be successful. Apologizing can mend broken (yet important) connections, create new opportunities, demonstrates that you care about fixing your mistake, and shows that you have a high level of respect for the other party involved.
Get the book at www.girlboss.com, amazon.com, or Barnes & Noble.