How to Stop Comparing Yourself
If you are comparing yourself to others, you will never “be good enough”.
Comparison is one of the top dream killers…anytime you take your eyes off your own mission, you immediately begin to sink. You must make a conscious effort to kill the habit of comparison because it really is a losing battle. Comparing yourself to others will keep you from seeing what is valuable about yourself and what is valuable about the people around you.
Honestly, do you really want to live your life by sizing up everyone you meet to see how you line up -or would you rather walk confidently in knowing who you are while being able to appreciate the uniqueness of others???
So how do I stop comparing myself to others?
Become aware of your own successes
We are often our toughest critics so even when we’ve done something over the top we don’t celebrate ourselves the way we should. Make a list of your successes, and write about the journey to traveled to get to each one of those successes. Read them to yourself, read them out loud in front of a mirror, meditate on them, and then celebrate each one. You deserve it. Don’t allow all your hard work to go to waste because you are blinded to the amazing things that you have already accomplished.
Realize that comparison is a losing battle
It’s either “I’m not pretty enough, smart enough, I don’t dress well enough, I don’t have enough money, their website is better than mine, they have more likes than I do”, or it’s “I’m prettier, I’m smarter, I have more money, my website is better, I have way more likes”…
The reality is, these are the first thoughts you have during every first encounter. Then from the first encounter you either shy away not feeling good enough, or work hard to upstage the other party. That is an extremely unhealthy, losing mentality. You become a slave to wanting to be better than the next instead of just wanting to be the best version of your true self.
Get to work
If you found the time to stop and make comparisons, then there is a lot more that you can be doing. Unhappy people compare, unsatisfied people compare, uninspired people compare…so to stop comparing yourself to others, you must take a good long look in the mirror and be honest about your current state. Once you honestly evaluate where you are, you can begin to figure out how you reached that point…from there you can backtrack and figure out what would make you happy, what would make you feel complete, what is inspirational to you, and you can begin to focus in and work on those things.
Your skills will make room for you – what are you good at? What are you passionate about? Spend so much time focusing on your own growth that there is no room in your mind or your schedule for comparison.
I heard before that this woman was becoming discouraged by seeing the successes of others on her timeline, so she was given the advice to unfollow these people. Now unless you just don’t vibe with a person for something that they did to you specifically or the posts are offensive, or negative…there should be absolutely no reason that you need to unfollow someone especially just because you can’t handle seeing their success. Self-growth and discovery is difficult because the truth can hurt. Instead of unfollowing these people face their success – support them, like their posts, buy from them, learn from them. If you can’t give support don’t expect to receive support. Everyone has a unique journey what’s for you is for you so learn to be happy for the success of others.
Develop a spirit of Thankfulness
Gratitude is a major step to stop the comparison. You have to be thankful for who you are and where you are. It’s like you are an artist each paint stroke doesn’t always make sense to the viewers, but find comfort in knowing that with each paint stroke the big picture is closer to being complete.